Another Monday morning and your alarm goes off. You lie in bed for another fifteen minutes contemplating why you need your present job. You reluctantly get up and out of bed, slowly dragging yourself to prepare for the day that’s ahead. You feel miserable, frustrated, depressed- not even that warm cup of your favorite coffee is helping to alleviate the whirlwind of emotions you are experiencing. With every core of your being you are there wishing and hoping and praying that you do not have to go to that job you hate so much. Sounds familiar right?
Can you remember when you first applied for that ideal job? You were probably filled with excitement, a renewed energy like never before and have goals about your new nursing role that you could not wait to achieve. You wake up every day with feelings of contentment and complete job satisfaction because you simply loved your job. Then BOOM! That all changed. You start to feel physically, mentally, and emotionally disconnected from your job; that energy that you once had you now feel drained; you have become less vibrant, more miserable. You don’t want to be working anymore. Whether you are working at the bedside or in some other nurse related specialty there might have been a period when you and many others just simply hated their jobs. So what do you do when you hate your job? In this post I want you to realize that if you feel this type of way about your job then you have to start taking ACTION to change your situation. Stop complaining! Stop making excuses!
WHAT TO DO WHEN YOU HATE YOUR JOB
Make an effort to let go of your negative feelings. Yes, going to work during your schedule shifts when you hate your job can be extremely challenging. You have the best intentions to give quality care to your patients but you are simply overwhelmed and cannot bother to carry out your tasks. The poor staffing, bully coworkers, ungrateful patients and family members- you just about have had enough of all of these. Either you decide to be happy and bright or dull and negative. The CHOICE is yours. Sometimes it is the perception that we have of our situation that breeds negativity. Choose to tackle your work days by making a conscious effort to be positive and open-minded. Before you go off to work, look at yourself in the mirror and recite your favorite mantra. That will help to give you the extra push that you need to start your work day. You may even make a list of the things you love about your job (your coworkers, the schedule, flexibility) and focus on those things to help brighten your day. Stop wallowing in negativity and self-pity. Let it go!
Be an agent of change. You obviously hate something about your job. So do you stay and mope or do you get up off your butt and try and change your situation? There are several steps you can take to achieve this. For example- if you hate your job because of staffing issues be strategic and arrange to have a one on one meeting with your nursing managers so that you can raise your concerns through a professional medium. Go with a plan of action where you already have measures of possible solutions to be discussed. Refrain from complaining and have an open mind. Another step you can take is to become an active member of your nursing union or association that is actively lobbying for improved working conditions for their members. You may experience a feeling of empowerment when you realize that you are not alone and that you have professional support.
Learn a new skill. The reason you may hate your job is because you feel stuck; after all, you’ve been in that same nursing role for umpteenth years and my goodness there just hasn’t been any opportunities for growth. Let me tell you this, you got to go out and grab it! It is yours for the taking. Do not sit and wait for opportunities to present itself. It ain’t gonna fall from the sky. Let the internet be your best friend and do your own research. You may also get first hand information from other nurses who have studied the same specialty. You might want to go into a completely different area that is not related to nursing. It does not matter. It is the worst feeling to be doing the same thing over and over and over again. Day in and day out. My gosh! How freaking boring and draining! Make the effort to learn something new.
Find a new job. Do not feel that you are obligated to stay in a work environment that is not suitable for you. Only you alone can truly understand how disgruntled you truly are by staying in a job you hate. There are so many nurses that spend many years in a job that they do not enjoy. It benefits no one when you do this. Research has shown that when you are happy in your job, your job performance is better and patient care outcome is also better. As mentioned above, the internet is available for your advantage. Research available job openings and find your best fit. Conduct a thorough research so that you do not end up going into another job that comes with similar problems that you are avoiding.
Find your passion. Listen, this may be one of the hardest things you ever have to do in your life. It is not easy. You may have gone to Google a million and one times and typed “ways to find my passion”. You are laughing out loud because you know it’s true. You are definitely not alone. You may start by writing down a list of things that you love or enjoy doing. Try matching those things you have identified with your personality, your beliefs, values, attitudes, work ethics, lifestyle among others. Dedicate a few moments to examining yourself. Do this by asking yourself a series of questions:
- What do I enjoy doing?
- What area of nursing do I love?
- What do I see myself doing for the rest of my life?
- Can I turn my passion into profit?
- What does my “perfect day” entails?
- Will I be willing to relocate if the need arises?
After answering those questions then make the effort to do something about it. Have a plan and work towards to it. Do what make your heart sings. Remember your happiness comes first, always.
If you are a nurse who hates your job just understand that you are not alone and it can happen to any of us. It is good that you can admit to this and then make an effort to seek change. Start at this very moment to do something. No more negativity, no more feeling frustrated, no more complaining. Make a plan of action and carry it out. Only you alone can change your situation. The power is yours!
As I go I leave you with this quote from Dr. Val Gokenbach- “finding your passion will lead you to finding work that motivates and satisfies you.”
The Candy Stripe Nurse 🙂